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Reasons I am a Horrible Mother

Have you seen this picture from Granola Babies floating around facebook?

all good mothers

It’s supposed to be a reminder to all mother’s that no matter how you parent, as long as you love and care for your child, you’re a great mother.  Breast or bottle?  Circumcised or uncircumcised?  Cloth or disposable diapers?  Religion or not?  As long as we are showing our children love, we are just as good a mom as the next.

Instead, the picture was taken too far by the wonderful people of facebook on many different facebook pages.  One in particular is Jen from Life With Levi‘s Facebook Page.  You can see how it explodes into something horrible instead of celebrating our mothering differences and that we all are still great mothers.

Jen has started a link up for us moms to celebrate the reasons we are all still good mother’s  no matter how we choose to parent our children.

Reasons I am A Horrible Mother

 I breastfed my first child for only 6 weeks.  He was then bottle fed.

I breastfed my last two children for over two years despite odd comments and looks from family and friends.

I am not afraid to pop my boob out anywhere when baby is hungry.

I circumcised my first two boys.  If current baby is a boy, he will not be circumcised.

I use disposable diapers most of the time.

I don’t spank as often as some think I should.  And I spank more than others think I should.

I let my kids eat fast food sometimes.

I let them eat candy and drink soda sometimes.

I don’t keep any drinks in the house besides water and juice.

I don’t keep many snack foods in the house besides fruits and veggies.

I let them fight – and make up.

I let them wear fake tattoos.

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I have coslept with most of my children and still do with my almost two year old.

My daughters will not have pierced ears until they can ask and care for it themselves.

Sometimes I get angry and yell at them.

Most of my kids eat dinner without washing their hands first.

I let them play in the sprinkler in a diaper.

sprinkler in diaper

I vaccinate on schedule.

I have given my kids the flu shot.

I don’t homeschool.

My almost two year old is still rear facing and my 5 year old is still in a car seat.  They will stay that way as long as possible.

I don’t teach my children any one religion.

I don’t disinfect toys/bottles/pacifiers.

I let my kids play xbox/computer/and other games.

I love all of my children, all of the time.

They are all happy.  They are all healthy.  They are all loved.

happy healthy kids

I am not a horrible mother.

I’m sure some of these things may make me a horrible mother in some mother’s eyes.  But it shouldn’t have to.  I love my children just as much as those who do things differently.  So let’s stop the bickering on the best way to raise our children, and just celebrate that we are all different, yet just as capable mothers.

Leave a Comment:

Jennie B Moye says September 19, 2012

Thanks for this, I enjoyed it. Sorry I couldn’t find the link on FB but now I am glad I did.
I guess if you look at it this way we are ALL BAD MOTHERS! Oh well I had rather be a bad Mother than not a Mother at all!

Donna Cavanagh says September 19, 2012

Ah, normal parents with normal children – go figure!

Barbara says September 20, 2012

Sending love and support, one bad mom to another. 🙂

Jen - Life With Levi says September 20, 2012

Love the tattoo picture. Since I have a lot of tattoos, Levi is really interested in them right now. He’ll even roll up his sleeve to show his off.

So glad you shared this and linked up – thank you!

Jenn @therebelchick says September 20, 2012

You’re an awesome mom. 🙂

Jillien says September 22, 2012

Sounds like a terrible mother to me …. *wink*

Your kids are lucky to have such a loving mama.

Not to start a debate, but I’m interested in why there is a trend to have uncircumcised boys?

    Jennifer Dickison says September 24, 2012

    I just think people are becoming more informed about circumcision. I don’t know that there is a trend. I did what I felt was right with my first two boys, and if my child now is a boy, I will do what I feel is right for him.

    Thank you for commenting!

    Jennifer The Quirky Momma says October 11, 2012

    In the past, it was strictly religious based, then it became a medical norm. I know that a lot of insurance companies are not paying for this anymore because it isn’t considered medically necessary.

Kelly @ Texas Type A Mom says September 29, 2012

If you’re a bad mother, then I’m one too. We don’t have all of the same traits but I’m sure I have some you don’t have listed and I have quite a few that you do have listed. We just have to do the best we can. No one’s perfect. I think the evolution of what a good mom is or what is considered acceptable has evolved and gotten distorted more from when we were growing up.

Jennifer The Quirky Momma says October 11, 2012

Who makes up those bad mother rules anyway? Probably someone without kids, right???!!!

Love is all you need to be a good parent!

Becca says February 2, 2013

Thank you for this! 🙂

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